In the last couple of months my comfort zones have been under attack.
I have been learning to let go of familiar things, people and places and reach out to new ones. And that is easier said than done.
Comfort zones are familiar and familiar things are comfortable. Or are they? They only seem comfortable because it is what you are used to. The people, the surrounding, the situation, the state of mind have all become familiar. Even the complaining has become familiar. Who knew that whining could be such a strong bond between friends?
Think about it, some of our friendships are in essence support groups. We come together, moan about stuff and then go back to our miserable situation till the next time we meet to moan again. Funny how that never gets tiring?
So I have been embracing the changes in my life. I have also begun embracing new people. Get the smirk off your face of course my husband is aware am embracing new people!
So why am I excited about the changes that are happening in my life?
First, failure to embrace change will not stop change from happening. It is said nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come. The waves of change are indeed unstoppable, I can close the doors but change will sneak in through the window and slap me silly. Sometimes the cost to pay for denial is too much!
Secondly, unless I get to that place where I am ready to let go of the old, the new will never come. This is because two things cannot occupy the same space. It is either the new or the old. You cannot have the new old or the old new. Never! My heart wants the new. Craves the new. So the old must go!
Third, change is the only way I can move from my problem to my promise. I need to move from talking about the good old days. I cannot become woman I need to be if am not going to let go of woman I used to be.
Finally, if I ask for a makeover, I must be ready for a makeover! You see, as a woman every so often I will go to the salon because my hair looks bad and needs Ben’s magical touch. Ben is the one who waves his wand over my head regularly. It would be ridiculous for me to tell Ben, I need you to do my hair but please do not touch it. Do not change anything. Do not do anything. But after 2 hours here, I will want to look different when am leaving. Sounds silly right?
Well, we do it every day.
We ask God to take us to the next level but we start complaining when we are being shaken. When changes are taking place we whine. When the old is being taken away we complain that the days of persecution are here. You scream for communal prayers, the devil is attacking you. You fast for the changes to stop.
Will you make up your mind!
You may be on the edge of a new experience and you need a push from frustration to victory. From pain to power.
That push is CHANGE.
Embrace it. Enjoy it.
Let it evolve you.
